Is your Puppy your Baby?

As I sat down to write this post I was planning on talking about Poppy.

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Poppy is our 8 month old collie cross, and what motivated the post was the fact that the other week, for the first time since we got her, I had a full night’s sleep as I didn’t have to get up during the night to let her pee. This may sound a little exaggerated but trust me although dear husband (or ‘Daddy’ as we now refer to him) does do his doggy duties, daddy does sleep the sleep of the righteous and so all the nocturnal activities do generally fall to me. Now this marked a milestone as ever since then she’s slept through the whole night and so have I, and I’m not as knackered as I once was. So I started to wonder if this was the same feeling that new mummy’s get when their little one starts sleeping through the night.

Just as I started doing a little research I was shocked to find the amount of intense and passionate (to put it politely) articles and blog posts by mothers about how dogs are most definitely NOT anything like children, and how offended they are when people make comparisons.

So my post then took on a different hue, was I becoming one of those ‘weirdoes’ that these articles referred to that couldn’t discern between the love of a child and the trusting dependency of a dog? Was I offending biological mothers the world over by deigning to believe that Poppy and I had a similar bond? But as I read through these articles a funny thing happened, I not only started to question my relationship with Poppy but I was starting to feel a little inadequate as a human being, and more specifically a woman! That’s when I noticed it. One of the main defining points these articles were bringing up were how just “going to a kennel and pointing at ‘that one’ “ (which every dog owner will no doubt admit it wasn’t THAT easy!) doesn’t compare to the 9 months of growing and nurturing a baby, then the agony and elation of birth. Which is a little harsh as I can’t actually have children and so was left feeling bad about something which is a biological impossibility for me!

Then I looked at my little Poppy, curled up on the floor next to me as she always likes to be in the same room as me, and I remembered the day we got her from a farm. How timid and shy she was, and the two hours we spent on the floor of the farmhouse kitchen getting to know her. Her heart-breaking cries the first time we left her alone, and how proud we were the first time she peed outside.

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Poppy on her first day, the one and only day she was ever shy and timid.

How my heart was in my mouth the first time I let her off her lead to play with other dogs, how she runs to me when ‘daddy’ tells her off, or how she looks genuinely heartbroken when I tell her off, and I thought “bugger it! She IS our baby!”

So I do apologise if anybody finds this offensive as my post is not intended to inflame, but I find it a little unfair when people get on their high horse about the difference between having a puppy and a baby and in the process invalidating the feelings of the dog owners. Especially when one of their main points is the ‘9 months of carrying and nurturing a baby and the agonising birth’ but the joy and elation of having a child at the end of it. Well you know what? I did not have any of that, what I did have was 9 months of physical and emotional recovery after 3 months of carrying around a 2 ½ stone lump and a 4 hour operation to remove it, and the end of which I had the inability to EVER have children. So yes! Poppy is our baby. Yes! we do spoil her and arrange our lives around her, and yes! we do refer to each other as Mummy and Daddy around her, we find it fun and if we wish to believe it reinforces the idea that the bond between us is similar to that of a parent and child, so be it!

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. . . on a lighter note

Haven’t shared my projects for a while . .and there’s a lot of them . .so here’s my ‘gallery’ in the style of  ‘Vision On’

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Shawl from ‘Lets Knit’ Magazine, went slightly wrong, but still looked good.

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A little experiment gone well, with lots of different styles in my head now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Cardigan for my little neice

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Berry Hats. Lots of fun and easy to knit up

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the ‘hey look I can crochet!’ hat

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Had a request from Baby Ben for a hat . . .so of course i went a little nuts with it

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Adult Bobble hat inspired by the baby bobbles

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Another fun onesie (panda and reindeer also on the way)

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Loving these onesies!

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Reindeer hat, debating on whether would be better or just a little freaky with eyes

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Very very happy with how this turned out, too cute for words

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Iron Man gloves! Also designed by me at the request of a co-worker

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And just because it’s too cute for words . .

Baby Ben in one of my hats

Progress Report 27/04

Well it’s friday, so it’s that time again . . and it’s been an up and down couple of weeks.

Weight loss: Oh dear! Gained a pound, a bit disappointing but not surprised. I had a bad cold throughout last week and it’s taken me a while to get my energy levels back up, as a consequence I’ve only been to the gym a few times over the last couple of weeks. I had expected to put on more, but I suppose I’m getting into good eating habits now.

 

On the plus side I’m up to 20 minutes (10 walk/run repeats) on the treadmill now. In that 20 minutes I covered 2km, the data geek in me stepped up and worked out that if I did walk/run repeats during ‘Race for Life’ I could probably do it in about 50-60 minutes. That seems quite respectful  (for me) so for the moment I’m going to stick within the 20 minutes on the treadmill and see if I can run for a bit longer, maybe repeats of 1 minute walk, 2 minute run. I’m optimistic, hopefully that may also start making up for the 2 week lapse I just had too.

 

Knitting Projects:  Well I’ve had quite a busy couple of weeks, finished the little monkey suit I was making for my impending niece/nephew. Quite impressed with it really, was using cheap yarn so really didn’t expect it to turn out as well. Just to add a little finishing touch I also knitted a little monkey toy, the original pattern was in stocking stitch but I used garter stitch instead so it would go with the outfit. They go together quite well actually.

I’ve now moved on to my next project, a skeleton jumper of my own design. Well I was looking for a jumper with a skeletal picture on the front in an adult size but I couldn’t find any anywhere. So I adapted a basic jumper pattern (oversize). The chart I’ve made only works for the small size at the moment, if the entire garment works out ok I might see if I can adapt the chart for larger sizes.

10 hours on the needles and the jumper’s looking good so far.

Progress Report 13/04

Well it’s Friday which is my weigh-in day, so I thought i’d make it my general progress report day.

Weight loss: So yay for lots of progress this week. I’ve had my weigh-in day today and i’m now 243lbs, and have lost an inch off my waist and hips in the last two weeks.

MyFitnessPal – Free Calorie Counter

This Gym thing is definately working for me, at the moment I’m only averaging about half an hour in the morning, and burning about 250-300 calories. At this rate i could be down to 231lbs in eight weeks, which would be a really fantastic result to go back to the fertility clinic with.

Knitting project: I’m practically done with the monkey suit for my impending neice/nephew, knitted all the pieces just got to sew it all together.

Really impressed with how it’s turning out. There are a few things, like the ears, which i would like to change. I’m sure with different kind of yarn it would turn out a lot better. So this has taken me a week to make and that’s only a couple of hours worth of work in the evening so i’d imagine on a good day this could only take me a couple of days.
There’s a few other designs by the same person which are quite cute http://www.ravelry.com/patterns/sources/critter-kids-on-ravelry so might try them out at some point. My next project after this is going to be a skeleton jumper i designed.